The Cycles of Endings and Beginnings
Aug 19
Written by Jess Lea
We find ourselves collectively in deeper cycles of endings. Relationships are being challenged and tested, and our previous notions of commitment are evolving. We are entering a time of self-realization and transformation, where clarity is guiding us toward new directions. No longer are we bound by the old belief that we must stay connected until physical death parts us. But what about emotional and spiritual death? These experiences and expressions of our soul and body are just as real as a physical separation—from both people and the planet. Let’s explore this further.
In our interactions with others, reciprocity is essential. It’s a foundational law of the Universe—one we experience daily, whether we’re conscious of it or not. We all seek connection and balance in all things: every animal, plant, insect, and human alike.
Our parents and grandparents were often masters at suppressing their needs, concerns, and desires, locking them behind internal doors—often because they felt powerless to change their circumstances or lacked the will to create lives that felt honest and inspired. Their days were marked by obligation, struggle, and acceptance of “what is.”
Yet even then, there were great teachers—Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, Napoleon Hill—who pursued their visions and opened doors for others to realize that this world is rich with possibility. But to access those possibilities, we must first connect with our true desires—no matter the cost. History has shown us that humans are capable of creating powerful innovations, expressions, and ways of being from nothing.
In today’s world, our elevated consciousness allows us to connect more deeply with ourselves and the energies of creation. We are invited into curiosity and exploration as we call in the experiences we most desire. I often say: we are part of the creation story, and creators within our own stories. Whether you call it God, the Universe, or Source, we are woven into the master template of expansion, evolution, and frequency.
When it comes to intimate relationships, many of us are awakening to the desire for growth, depth, and alignment. We no longer want to stay stagnant or stuck in outdated patterns. The question often arises: Is this it?
If one partner is unwilling to grow—resisting change and staying in their comfort zone—the relationship begins to decay. In every relationship, there are three energy sources: the energy of each person, and the third energy—the container they co-create through time, love, intention, and care.
When one partner stops contributing to that container—or begins to lean heavily on the other to maintain it—imbalance arises. The container begins to crack. Both individuals may feel like they’re drowning in uncertainty, often defaulting to blame.
A healthy relationship moves, breathes, and evolves. It honors both the individuals and their shared connection. A healthy partner is someone who knows themselves, is not dependent on the other, and values authentic companionship. Together, they create a relationship rooted in honesty, safety, devotion, and compassion.
If you find yourself outgrowing your relationship or noticing the container breaking, ask yourself:
Am I able to be my authentic self in this connection?
Are we both willing to grow and create a new version of this relationship together?
Does this relationship cause one of us to suffer daily?
How does this feel in my body and nervous system? Am I constantly activated, anxious, or shut down?
Take time to journal your responses. These reflections will help you identify patterns and behaviors—and bring clarity about your next steps. You may find that healing is possible within the connection. Or, you may recognize that this person was a teacher, showing you your own patterns, and that it’s time to move on.
Breathe deeply. Connect with your body. Your wisdom lives there.
And if you need support, I’m here. I offer a safe space to help you explore your patterns, emotions, and choices. Reach out to schedule a coaching session when you're ready.
